5 Things I Learned from My Husband Joe
When an extravert meets an introvert, great things can happen. That’s what I’ve learned, having met my husband Joe eleven years ago. We’ll celebrate 10 years of wedded bliss this October. As my adult son said, as he met and learned to love Joe, “You bring his energy up, and he brings yours down, and that’s a good thing, both ways.”
Here are the 5 things I’ve learned while living with and loving Joe.
- You don’t have to book every minute of the day. Sometimes it’s a great thing to just sit, watch, breathe, and think about not much of anything. Exhale.
- You’re never too old to change things. Joe had triple bypass surgery the year we got married. Since then, he has changed his entire way of living, eating and exercising, one baby step at a time. It’s the little steps that lead to big change.
- It’s OK to stay home. See #1. Sitting together, him doing crossword puzzles, and me reading the paper, give me great pleasure. It doesn’t have to be non-stop excitement every step of the way.
- There’s a no-drama rule for holidays and vacations. Our first marriages were filled with drama; this one is not. Drama is a lot of wasted energy and anxiety for no good reason. No drama is good.
- You’ll learn a lot if you just sit and listen to the conversation around you. As an extravert, I’m a talker. Talkers frequently miss things, because they’re talking! Listening gives the floor to others and puts the spotlight on them. It’s not always about you… let it be about them.
Sit, listen, breathe…
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